There is so much controversy over singleness in the human society. One cannot understand why you should stay single before marriage, and perhaps after marriage. The world’s definition of Singleness in regard to marital status isn’t God’s original intent for its existence. There’s a lot of books on the shelves at book stores that teach directly opposite of what God says concerning singleness.
Some think it is a state of not being in an intimate relationship or having a sex partner, while others have this weird idea that it is staying without marriage. You can live without being in an intimate relationship and yet, not be single. You can as well not be married yet not single. This is deep than you think.
What is God’s Original Intent?
In the books of Genesis 2:18 the Lord God made a mind intriguing statement that has set confusion in the minds of many. God said in Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” This particular scripture has been twisted in several ways to suit man’s will. God said” I will make for him a help meet ” not a” help mate”. Before God made this statement, He realized that He created every living creature and it’s own kind. A cock and a hen, cow and a bull, etc.
It fascinates me hearing even pastors preach this message upside down; with all ignorance. God’s original intent was to make for Adam someone he can have conversation with, reason with, keep the garden with, lean on in times of adversity, dream with, accomplish a vision with, and stay Holy with, because Adam was single “had God’s image, spirit filled, productive, Holy, righteous, and is in God’s presence” but not lonely.
Being alone doesn’t mean you are lonely. Loneliness is beyond the state of staying alone. You can have everything in this life, but yet remain lonely. You can as well have family, friends and even your spouse around you but still remain lonely. So God didn’t mean giving Adam a wife but a help meet, Someone to reason with, not because he was lonely but because he was the only one of his kind.
God’s original intent was for man to live in an environment filled with his own kind because He realized that everything He created had its own kind.
Man was filled with life when living alone in the garden. The appearance of Eve didn’t change his marital status, he was still single ‘spirit filled, had God’s image, productive’.The day Man accepted the misconception of the devil concerning himself, Man fell. Adam’s singleness wasn’t a burden on him because he wasn’t lonely. As a matter of fact he was living in God’s presence without intimate relationship, sex, Eros, kiss, hug, lustful thought.
These things didn’t define Adam because he was complete. You can have everything in this world, but yet be lonely. You can as well have family and friends, and even your spouse around you, and yet live in loneliness. Loneliness is a state of mind. The world and it’s philosophy, perhaps also religion, has inculcate into our minds a fallacious idea that staying single means living in loneliness. We are made to believe that it is wrong to live without an intimate relationship. It is fascinating how the world and it’s philosophy has turned upside down the truth of Singleness. So much deception! This is why divorce is on the increase; We can’t wait to get married while in our unprepared, outcast and rebellious state.
Let your passion be in living a single but not alone.