I sat down reminiscing on the kind of wife our mothers were to our fathers from ancient times till the birth of civilization. I was reflecting on the days when our mothers saw our homes to be their biggest office and their children and husband as their valuable clients. How they use to go down on their knees for hours praying for their family. “Virtuous women” we call them when it is mother’s day.

Proverbs 31:10 – 14
A virtuous wife who can find? For her worth is far more than rubies. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant, she brings her food from far away.

The opening verse says “A virtuous wife who can find?”. The means not every wife is virtuous. So then who is a virtuous wife? A virtuous wife is the one who is

  • Morally perfect
  • Invaluable
  • Respectful
  • Fearless
  • Dependable
  • Wise
  • Prudent
  • Kind
  • Excels in virtue
  • God fearing
  • Trust worthy
  • Proficient
  • Industrious
  • Laborious
  • Versatile
  • Healthy
  • Joyful or efficient
  • Generous
  • Honored by the family
  • Honored by the public
  • An ideal wife and mother

Apostle Paul said ‘for what have I got to do with those outside the church?’. So let me talk to our Christian sisters please. Do we see these characteristics in you, our Christian ladies today? Can your husband or beloved trust you with his precious gift or property as verse 11 says? His first treasure is your body,yet you keep exposing it for other men to witness, yearn for, and enjoy. You commit adultery with some other men in your hearts and with your body. You prefer the easy way out of life rather than seeking the longest route which will land you on a successful ground. Now let’s consider the rest of the chapter to enlighten us.

Proverbs 31:15 – 31
She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household and tasks for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor, and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all her household are clothed in crimson. She makes herself coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the city gates, taking his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she supplies the merchant with sashes. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her happy; her husband too, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her a share in the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the city gates.

Ladies, this is it! Just examine yourself with what scripture says. Most of you love to leave the difficult aspect of life to another time, so you always exchange your dignity for jobs, money, promotions, and even little marks in examination whiles you can sit and burn candles. Yes I’m talking to our ladies at the tertiary institutions who have lost your sense of purpose. Yet you want to be regarded as a virtuous woman. What a pity!

Now to our married women, what business plan have you even written down to help your husband who always seeks the good of your future? Have you take the pain in asking him what his dreams and vision for the future is? How healthy do you keep your body? Who are you when you get into bed with your husband? How often do you even pray for your family?

The package of a product determines the kind of customers it attracts. Take the pain to read Christian books that will help shape you to become a good mother and a virtuous wife to your children and your husband. Let the Bible  be the best book you’ve ever known. Seek knowledge for your unborn children. Be a woman with good morals. Cut off friends that will influence you in a negative way. Raise your children in the light of God’s Word.

I tell you the truth friends, the material things you yearn for will fade away in no time. Don’t wait till you walk the Isle and get to that man’s house before you struggle to change. Become a virtuous woman today.